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dear readers, i’m blogging about mental health, or the lack thereof.

  • if you would like to contribute, please pledge here
  • those who wish to contribute to the lack thereof, rest assured that your thank-you notes are in the mail.

No, seriously. I’m participating in Blogathon 2007. Its a yearly event, where bloggers blog for 24 hours continously, every 30 minutes minimum, for charity. I’d like to consider myself a charity, but that’s not an option. :)

This year, it is at Walk On By and my partners are Jinny & Yee Pei and its in memory of the CHiQ, aka Valerie Tay in benefit of the Malaysian Mental Health Association.

the following from Yee Pei with minor changes.

As many of you will know by now, I lost my mentor, and chum, in June this year. I’m still reconstructing my life, cos she was a major part of it, and its taking longer to let go, than I thought.

She loved Cyndi Lauper’s “Walk On By”, and I had a flash of inspiration, when thinking of a title for the blogathon yesterday. This song is so appropriate…

…Make believe
that you don’t see the tears
Just let me grieve
in private ’cause each time I see you
I break down and cry
And walk on by (don’t stop)
And walk on by (don’t stop)…

Malaysian Mental Health Association
MMHA is a non-profit voluntary organisation managed by an elected committee of interested persons and professionals in the community. The association’s objectives includes:
– To promote mental health in the community
– To help raise the standard of treatment, prevention and research in the field of mental health.
– To provide rehabilitative services for the mentally ill.
– To safeguard the interests and welfare of psychiatric patients.
– To support caregivers and family members of mentally ill persons.
In a society where mental healthcare is often neglected, and where mental health patients face stigmatisation and discrimination, the work of an organisation like MMHA is indeed important. We need to realise that mental health is important and to seek help is entirely alright. Furthermore, patients and their family should be aware of avenues to seek help and support when needed, and definitely not be shunned by the very community they live in.
Find out more information about MMHA on their website.

How You Can Help
If you were Val’s friend and will like to say something during the blogathon, please send a copy of your post to us at blogathon07[at]gmail[dot]com. We will post your entry during the course of the blogathon, but it will not be counted as one of the 49 entries (heehee, so we won’t be cheating…). You can also stay online and cheer us on during the course of the blogathon (from Malaysian time, 9pm on 28th July to 9pm 29th July). And of course, a very practical way of supporting us will be to pledge towards our cause.
Please support our cause (or any other blogathon-er’s) by following these 5 easy steps (thanks, Edrei):
1. Go to the Blogathon website.
2. Click on “Want to make a PLEDGE?” and you will come to a list of bloggers and their blogs.
3. Click on the blogger and cause you want to support. In this case, click on “Walk On By” and “Malaysian Mental Health Association” or this link.
4. If you have not signed up, you will have to register before you can pledge. All you need is your name, email address and password for yourself. If you have signed up, you need to log in with your email address and password. Enter the amount you wish to donate and the currency in which you’re donating. If you wish to be anonymous, there is an option for you to do so.
5. Once you continue, you’ll be asked to confirm your amount again.
And you’re done. :D

Walk On By” is still under construction, but feel free to pop over and drop us a comment or two… Thanks!


Here’s my explanation as to why I’m aged 24 and not a registered voter.

I’ve observed 10 years of politicians lying to get votes.

I’ve seen 2 relatives join the same political party… spend time and energy and achieve nothing at all.

I’m sad to see that the ideals of the founding father of my country (yes, Mr Deputy Prime Minister, its *MY* country too, I was born here, you see) are being changed for the short-term, selfish benefit of some two-bit politicians who are trying to make a quick win.

I’m angry that most of my peers are being represented in the government by some person who is not even a young person… and is so out of touch… that I can’t even begin to explain it.

I’m not going to support a system where the head of a department is selected based on their actions 20 years ago.

I’m not going to support a system where the ruling party decides what to do, and the opposition has no say in it.

I’m not going to vote for MPs who make lewd jokes about their female counterparts and laugh it off.

This is *NOT* what my grandfather suffered for, and I really really don’t see the point.

When anyone with any kind of title becomes an arrogant waste of air in public, showing off his title.
When any member of a political party thinks the law doesn’t apply to him.
When the representatives of the people call each other animals in the Dewan Rakyat.

Even the man in the street doesn’t call his neighbour monkey, what more the MPs. When questioned, they evade and feign ignorance.
I prefer to abstain … thank you very much.

well… this is an explanation, and hopefully a change will happen.

some of you dear readers have commented that I don’t blog much. This is true. This blog is a release valve of sorts for me. but some of my pressure comes from my workplace, and I can’t blog about that at all.

besides work, I spend my time riding my bike, learning how to better integrate my Mac, and other fun stuff…
I’ve recently been spending far too much time playing Scrabble against Irene, Jinny & YP and trying to hold my own. They’re good … I only regret not knowing about Scrabolous earlier!

Oh yes, my new toy = Apple MacBook Core Duo 2.0GHz SuperDrive.
thanks to my dear boss for making it happen.


Flickr Find: Geek Your Earings, PowerBook Style

/me looks around for some female geeks :) and knows who they are :)

One Month
One Week
One Day
since 4th June 2007.

I wrote this elsewhere, but I’ve decided to put it here, with some editing… sorry for the editing, but some people still deserve their privacy.


what if I had spent the Sunday off with you, as we planned some time earlier?

what if you had spent that night with us, would we have been able to change your mind?

what if I had been in KL that night, and *I* had found you with Fei … as it is, even when I go there it feels so strange without you?

what if I had told you that I had similar feelings when I was 14, that no one cared about me, and the only thing that stopped me back then, was my calling my dad, and hearing his voice… that I couldn’t hurt him that much?

what if I told you that I’ve never met anyone like you ever? oh wait, I already did, but you didn’t care!

babe, you know what… that’s the part I completely do not understand. we had almost no secrets left… but you kept this one from me… and from your mei… and then you had the gall to write ” I’ve tried reaching out but I didn’t wanna interrupt someone else’s life with my crap.” … on that point babe, you sucked… by ending your life, like this… you created an interruption that we all truly hate… and we’re not going to be able to scold you for it. you just thought about your pain at that point and didn’t care about all the people you’re leaving behind. I told you that someone else did something similar, and how I can’t understand why she did it, and how I can’t forgive her for being selfish. and you did the exact same thing.

I can’t go to a pasar malam, I keep thinking of you. I can’t go to Eastern, cos I can see you there. Even Ajimal… was very very hard, but I am trying to hold it back.

Right now, I’m dedicating this song to you …
Michelle Branch “Are You Happy Now”

Now, don’t just walk away
Pretending everything’s ok
And you don’t care about me
And I know there’s just no use
When all your lies become your truth and I don’t care… yeah, yeah, yeah

Could you look me in the eye
And tell me that you’re happy now, ohhh, ohhh
Would you tell it to my face or have I been erased,
Are you happy now?
Are you happy now?

You took all there was to take,
And left me with an empty plate
And you don’t care about it, yeah.
And I have given up this game
I’m leaving you with all the blame cause I don’t care, yeah, yeah yeah,

Could you look me in the eye?
And tell me that you’re happy now, oohh oohhh
Would you tell it to my face or have I been erased,
Are you happy now? Ohhh, ohhhh
Are you happy now?

Do you have everything you want?
You could never give something you aint got
You can’t run away from yourself

Could you look me in the eye?
and tell me that you`re happy now, oohh oohhh
come on tell it to my face or have i been erased,
are you happy now? Ohhh, ohhhh
are you happy now?

Would you look me in the eye?
Could you look me in the eye?
I’ve had that all I can take
And I’m about to break
Cause I’m happy now, ohhh, ohhh
Are you happy now?